Wow, to say that this week has been heavy is an understatement. As a school counselor, one of the fundamental concepts that I teach and re-teach every day is being a gracious winner and loser. Win or lose there is aways a good lesson at the end of the journey of competition. I guess I have been a little disappointed in some of the methods that reactions were delivered after this week. Being on Facebook the day after the election truly made me question what it means to be a gracious winner or loser and what that should look like. Being gracious is something that is marked by kindness and courtesy, but also tact and delicacy.
Many people across the country were upset and others were elated with the final decision as our citizens chose our next president of the United States. Let’s look at how to handle both sides of the coin.
Being a gracious winner:
- be modest, no one likes a “show off”
- acknowledge the efforts of the opposing side
- to be a good winner you have to learn and practice the skills which made you a winner, but other skills will also need to be developed as you continue
Being a gracious loser:
- feeling and expressing anger and frustration at losing is ok, but in a safe and private place is the best form of practice
- look for the positives, what did you learn from the experience, what can you do differently next time
- being a gracious loser centers around the ability to celebrate someone else’s good fortune, despite the disappointment one feels
These bars graciously offer just the right amount of tact and delicacy that we all need this week. They are both salty and sweet, all at the same time. They have delicious peanut-butter flavor, paired with a salty crunch from the pretzels and creamy butterscotch chocolate frosting.
So whether you are celebrating this week that your candidate won, you can enjoy these delicious bars or if you are disappointed your candidate lost, take the time to move forward and make these bars to decompress. Winning and losing is a part of real life, learning how to conquer both can but just as rewarding. This quote sums it up best, “it is your response to winning and losing that makes you a winner or a loser.” Were you gracious this week?
1 c. light corn syrup
1 c. sugar
1 c. peanut butter
6 c. crispy rice cereal
2 c. semi-sweet chocolate morsels
1 cup butterscotch chips
1 c. pretzels
Add corn syrup and sugar into saucepan. Cook over medium heat, stirring frequently, until sugar dissolves and mixture begins to boil. Do not overcook, doing so will make your peanut butter-cereal mixture tough. Remove from heat. Stir in peanut butter. Mix well. Add cereal. Stir until well coated. Press mixture into 13 x 9 x 2-inch pan coated with cooking spray. Set aside.Melt chocolate and butterscotch chips together in 1-quart saucepan over low heat, stirring constantly. Spread evenly over cereal mixture. Sprinkle crushed pretzels or whole pretzels to the top of chocolate mixture. Let stand until firm.